What to Wear for Studio Family Photos

What Should You Wear for Studio Family Photos?

What to wear for family photos is the thing most mums get stuck on, usually at 10pm the night before. Outfits change how the photos feel more than almost anything else you can control, so they're worth ten minutes of proper thought. Here's how I'd approach it, after 23 years of doing this and roughly 2,500 families through my studio in Gordon.

Start With Mum, Then Build Around Her

Pick your outfit first. Everyone else coordinates around you.

I say this to every mum who asks, and the reason is simple. You're the one most likely to feel awkward in front of a camera, and if you're not comfortable in what you're wearing, it shows in every single frame. Your kids will be fine. Your husband will be fine. You're the one I want to get right.

So choose something you already own and already love. Something you've worn before and know you look good in. Not the thing you bought last week that you're not quite sure about, and not the thing that only works if you stand a certain way. You'll be sitting on the floor, holding a toddler, leaning into your husband, laughing at something one of your kids has said. Comfortable matters more than clever.

If you're between two options, go with the one that's softer and has a bit of movement in it. Stiff, structured fabric photographs stiff. Fabric that moves reads as relaxed, which is what you want.

I've had mums turn up with three outfits in a bag because they couldn't decide. Nine times out of ten we go with the one she's worn before and already knows she feels good in.

Takeaway: choose yours first, build everyone else around it.

Think of the Whole Family as One Outfit

Coordinated, not matching. There's a big difference.

Matching outfits, everyone in white shirts and jeans, means everyone blends into everyone else. You lose the individual people. What you actually want is a family that clearly belongs together but where each person still looks like themselves.

The test I use is this. If every item of clothing you've chosen was somehow on one person, would that outfit work? If the answer is yes, you've got it. If it's a mess, something needs to change.

In practice that means picking two or three colours plus a neutral, then varying the tone within them. One person in a deeper shade, another in a lighter one. Let one person wear a pattern if they want to, then keep everyone else fairly plain so the pattern doesn't have to compete.

Texture is your friend, especially in the studio. Knits, linen, denim, corduroy. They give the images depth without adding visual noise. A chunky jumper does more for a photo than a busy print does.

Have a look through my family portrait gallery and you'll see the same principle in most of them. Nobody matches. Everybody goes together.

Takeaway: if it would work as one outfit, it'll work as a family.

Four Colour Palettes That Work in the Studio

My studio light is controlled, which means colours behave predictably. These four are the ones I come back to.

Blues and greys. Endlessly versatile and easy to shop for from what's already in the wardrobe. Mix the shades rather than using one flat blue across everyone, and throw in one small hit of a different colour if you want some lift.

Neutrals. Creams, oatmeal, tan, soft white, warm beige. This palette gives a very natural, calm feel and it's lovely if you want to put the little girls in something floral. It also ages well, which matters if the photos are going on the wall for the next fifteen years.

Black and grey. Black is flattering and a lot of parents feel more confident in it, so I'd never tell you to avoid it. It works particularly well in the studio where I can control the light and keep the shapes separate. Add grey and white for the kids so you're not looking at one solid block of dark.

Your own palette. Pick any three or four colours you actually like and coordinate around them. Cohesive without being matchy. Nobody standing out more than anyone else.

Takeaway: pick a palette before you pick the clothes.

Blues and greys

What to Skip

A short list, because there really aren't many rules.

Big logos and slogans. A small logo on a pocket is fine. What I mean is the brand name running right across the chest, or the slogan T-shirt. Your eye goes straight to the writing instead of the faces, and in ten years the logo will date the photo more than anything else in it.

Loud character prints. Your five-year-old loves that dinosaur shirt. I understand. But a big cartoon print pulls focus off your child's face, which is the whole reason you're here.

Anything brand new and untested. New clothes are stiff, sometimes itchy, and nobody knows yet whether they're comfortable. A child tugging at a scratchy collar for an hour is not a good look for anyone.

Too many competing patterns. One pattern in a group is interesting. Four patterns is busy.

Very bright single colours in large amounts. Strong fluoro or saturated brights can throw colour up onto skin under studio lighting. Fine in small doses, tricky as a whole outfit.

Takeaway: anything that pulls attention away from faces is the thing to change.

The Practical Bits Nobody Thinks About

Lay everything out two or three days before, not the night before. This is the single thing that reduces stress most and it costs you nothing. You'll spot the missing button, the stain or the pair of trousers that no longer fit while there's still time to do something about it.

Bare feet are my default in the studio. It means shoes are one less thing to organise, and bare feet look softer and more natural than socks or school shoes.

Bring a spare top for yourself if you're torn. It takes two minutes to change and you'll feel better knowing there's an option.

Hair the way you normally wear it, not a style you've never tried before. And take the hair ties off your wrists, they turn up in more photos than you'd think.

If your dog is coming, and dogs are genuinely welcome here, give them a brush beforehand and swap a bulky harness for a plain collar or nothing at all. They photograph better without a lead across the frame.

One last thing. All of the above is for studio sessions. If you're booked for an outdoor session, the advice shifts a fair bit, mostly around layers, footwear and the fact that you'll be sitting on grass.

Takeaway: sort it early and the day itself becomes easy.

And If You're Still Not Sure

Whether you've got a newborn, three kids under ten or teenagers who need bribing to be there, the same approach works. Get the outfits decided early, then turn up and let me handle the rest. Nobody has ever failed a family session on clothing.

I photograph families at every stage. If you've been thinking about booking a session, now is the time. You can see what's included and what families usually spend on my pricing page, or just send me a message and tell me what you're thinking.

Kate x

What if my kids won't sit still?

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What if my kids won't sit still?

As a mum of three, I totally get that mums are nervous about how the kids are going to behave during their family's session.

Do you have the kind of kids that don't sit still even for a minute?

Do you try to go out for a meal and they last about 5 minutes at the table and then they're wanting to race around the restaurant and check everything out? You never seem to be able to get that relaxing meal at the restaurant. You watch the other family sitting around with the kids at the table behaving normally and dream of having kids that will sit still.

When I see these kinds of kids arrive at a session I can clearly see the look on mum's face. She's nervous that the kids aren't going to behave and listen to what they're asked to do.

Here are my tips as a mum and photographer about the best way to prepare:

Firstly, explain to them what's going to actually happen at a session

Have a chat to the kids a few weeks before your session about what's going to happen.

Explain that the photographer is going to take some pictures of you as a family and then the kids together and then the kids by themselves.

Set some expectations of what you expect of your kids.

Explain to them that they need to listen to what the photographer asks them to do.

Reassure them that if they listen and do what they are asked then the session will be quick and easy.

Make sure you ask the photographer how long the session is going to take and then explain that to your kids.

My sessions never go for more than about 45 minutes. Young kids have short concentration spans and I would never expect them to be sitting still and concentrating for that whole time.

Reassure them that it will be fun.

Let them pick their own outfits

As a mum I dream of having those perfectly coordinated photos with everyone sitting in white, with hair perfectly brushed, shiny white teeth and kids looking like perfect angels.

The reality is with energetic kids, if you saw a photo of your kids like this it wouldn't look like your kids.

I've had issues with my kids not liking labels on clothes, not liking certain colours, only wanting to wear one kind of look.

When they're not keen on getting photos done, and then we try to dress them up for the perfect look is most often when the fighting starts.

So my advice is pick out a bunch of their favourite clothes, lie them on the bed to check which ones roughly coordinate best with each other. Most blues work well together, or grey can work well with blue. Throw in a splash of colour and it will still work.

Give your kids 2 to 3 options each. Then let them pick which one they want to wear. You'll end up with happy kids who feel comfortable in what they're wearing.

When you get to the session

Be guided by what your photographer tells you.

I start our sessions by explaining to the family exactly what's going to happen. That way mum knows what to expect and the kids know what to expect.

I find quite often it's dad who's the most nervous, worried about having to smile and be told what to do. He has often been dragged along as well.

The important thing as a mum is just to relax.

An experienced photographer is used to dealing with kids that don't sit still. I have lots of tricks that will help the process go smoothly.

If you get stressed your kids know you're stressed.

Relax and enjoy your session.

Watch your kids interacting with each other. Watch them interacting with the photographer.

A photo session is about capturing your kids at this age. Enjoy those moments as the session unfolds. Enjoy those little quirks that make your kids who they are. Let me engage with your kids and capture their individual personalities.

Most importantly don't tell them to smile. Kids often have that awful fake smile, especially between the ages of 5 and 10. As a photographer I have lots of tricks to get them to laugh.

If you're still weighing up which Sydney family photographer is right for you, here's what actually matters when you're deciding.

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Should you include your dog in Family Photos?

Your dog is part of the family. So why is the dog never in the family photos?

I hear this all the time. The kids have had their school portraits, there might be a nice shot on the wall from a holiday, but the dog who sleeps on the end of the bed and greets everyone at the door is nowhere to be seen. For a lot of the families I photograph, that feels wrong. If the dog is family, the dog belongs in the photo.

I've been including dogs in sessions for 23 years. It isn't an add-on or a novelty. It's one of my favourite parts of the job. So if you've been putting off family photos because you aren't sure how the dog will cope, let me talk you through it.

Will my dog behave?

This is the question I get more than any other. The honest answer is that dogs don't need to behave. They need to be themselves. I'm not after a stiff, sitting-to-attention shot where everyone including the dog is frozen. I'm after the real thing. The dog leaning into your youngest. The dog looking up at you. The dog doing a lap of the studio because there's a new smell to investigate.

My studio is a big 175sqm space with room for a dog to move. Dogs are allowed to sniff around, settle in and get comfortable before we start. When a dog feels relaxed, the photos look relaxed. That's the whole trick.

A few simple things that help

A few small things just make the session run smoother. Take your dog for a walk beforehand so they burn off some energy.

If your dog gets groomed, book it in for the week before rather than the day before, so their coat has a little time to grow back.

And bring some treats along. I actually prefer to work without them, because dogs can get a bit fixated on the treats, but they're there as a backup if things aren't going to plan.

You don't need to train your dog for anything beforehand. I'll just work around them, help them feel comfortable and gently guide them into the shots.

And if your dog gets nervous, let me know before the session. I've worked with anxious dogs and senior dogs and everything in between, so I'm comfortable with whatever the day brings.

Why it matters more than you think

Here's the part people don't always say out loud. Dogs don't live as long as we want them to. The family photo with the dog in it becomes one of the photos you'd never part with, because one day that dog won't be there and you'll be so glad you have it.

I photograph a lot of families who come back years later, and the sessions with the old dog in them are the ones they talk about most. That's not something you can redo. This is the dog you have right now, at this age, with these kids at these ages. That combination exists once.

‍What the photos actually look like‍ ‍

Warm. Natural. A bit chaotic in the best way. Your dog isn't squeezed into the corner of one shot at the end. Your dog is in the family portrait, on laps, in the middle of the cuddle pile, wherever they naturally end up. Because that's where they are in real life.

If you'd rather be outdoors, I do outdoor sessions too, which some dogs love because there's more room to run. You can see how those work on my outdoor sessions page.

Ready to get your dog in the picture?

‍If you have a dog who is family and a wall that is missing them, let's sort it out. I'll handle the chaos. You just show up with the family, the dog and the treats.‍ ‍

Book your session here or get in touch if you have questions about bringing your dog along. I'm always happy to talk it through.

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Kate x

Can You Bring Your Dog to a Family Photo Shoot?

Yes, you can bring your dog to a family photo session in Sydney, and at my studio the dog is part of the family, not an add-on or a problem to manage. I'm Kate Buechner, I've photographed roughly 2,500 Sydney families over 23 years, and about a third of my sessions have a dog in them. If you've been wondering whether your dog can come, this post tells you exactly how it works and why it goes better than you think.

So, can the dog actually come?

Short answer, yes, and I'd encourage it. If the dog is part of your family, the dog belongs in the photos. About 30 per cent of the families I photograph bring a dog, so this is normal here, not a special request I have to think twice about.

The reason it works comes down to the space. My studio in Gordon is a 175sqm room with three big arch windows, and it's set up to feel like a home, not a clinic. That size matters more than people realise. It means I can take your dog off the lead and let them actually be a dog. There's room to move, room to sniff about, room to settle. A small studio can't do that, which is why a lot of photographers quietly steer you away from bringing the dog at all.

So the question isn't really "will you allow my dog". It's "is your space set up for it". Mine is, and it's been set up for it for years.

But my dog won't behave. They'll never sit still for photos.

This is the worry I hear most, and I understand it. You picture your dog ignoring every command, bolting around the room, refusing to look at the camera while you stand there apologising. It almost never goes that way.

Here's what actually happens. The dog comes in, has a good sniff around, usually jumps straight up on the bed or the lounge, and within a few minutes settles right down. I never start shooting the second you walk in. I give the dog time to get used to the space first, because a relaxed dog photographs beautifully and a rushed one doesn't. By the time I begin, your dog isn't on edge anymore. They're at home.

It helps that I love dogs. I've got my own miniature dachshund, Lollie, so working with dogs isn't a service I tolerate, it's something I look forward to. Dogs read that. They sense when someone's comfortable with them, and they relax accordingly. The takeaway here is simple. You don't need a perfectly trained dog. You need a space and a photographer that work with the dog you've actually got.

How do you even get the dog in the photo?

The other worry, right behind behaviour. People imagine the dog will be off in a corner while the family poses, and they'll end up with photos that don't include the one they came for.

What really happens is the dog usually steals the show. I tend to put the dog right in the centre of the family, and nine times out of ten they love being the centre of attention. You'd be amazed how many of my favourite family images come down to a dog doing a head tilt at exactly the right moment. It's the best thing ever, and it's the frame the whole family ends up wanting on the wall.

One thing I do that not everyone does, I'll also photograph your dog on their own. Not just tucked into the family group, but proper portraits of the dog by themselves, so you've got something beautiful of them to keep. Dogs don't stay with us as long as we'd like, and a real portrait of yours, the way you actually see them, is worth having. That's the bit families tell me later they're most glad they got.

What you'll walk away with

When a dog comes to a session here, you don't get a stiff family line-up with a dog awkwardly bolted on the end. You get your family as you actually are, dog included, relaxed and real, plus a few portraits of the dog on their own that you'll be glad you have down the track. That's the whole point of how I work. Real families, real moments, dog very much welcome.

Whether your family is two people and a puppy or a full house of kids and a dog who thinks they're a kid too, that's worth photographing exactly as it is right now. If you've got a dog you want in the frame, have a look at my Dogs and Their Families gallery or send me a message and let's talk about a session.

Kate x